Joy Ignites Success

Self Induced Stress

By  - Tuesday, June 04, 2013

R.S. Lazarus defined stress as ‘a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize’.
The key word in the preceding definition is ‘perceives’.  Our perception defines our reality.  When we resist what is in front of us, and tell ourselves we can’t do it, or there’s not enough time, we create stress in the body.  The same situation met with willingness will take less effort and won’t feel like a burden.  We create stress through our self talk, saying things such as: ‘I’ll never get it done’ even though we almost always do.  When we lie to ourselves; which is essentially what we’re doing, the same internal mechanism of getting lied to by others gets stimulated and our trust of ourselves diminishes.  In addition, we create undue pressure for ourselves believing it will make us work faster and harder. Read More

Dealing with Tragedy

By  - Tuesday, April 16, 2013

With yet another incomprehensible act of violence, I thought I might address some of the questions I often hear from my clients.  


How Am I Supposed to Feel?

However you do.  Trying to control what you feel is non-productive and never works.  You may feel sadness, anger, confusion, even numbness in this type of situation.  The incident may bring up past events seemingly unrelated.  If you can take even a moment to notice and name what you are feeling, it will help.

What Am I Supposed to Do About the Feelings?

Feel them.  That’s it.  Every feeling has a sensation in the body and when you can just breathe and be with it, it will naturally dissolve.  Thinking we have to do something with or about the feeling, keeps us stuck in the feeling.  Trying to ignore the feelings may work temporarily, but not in the long run.  

What Am I Supposed to Do About the Situation?
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