Joy Ignites Success

Become an Inverse Paranoid - #6

By  - Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Success Principle #6: Become an Inverse Paranoid

The Principle in a Nutshell: Believe that the world wants you to win and is here to support you and that everything you experience is ultimately in your highest good.  

Discussion: This is one of my favorite principles.  Since most of what we think people feel or believe about us is made up, why not assume they love us and want us to succeed?   Taking this further, we also make up stories about our own experiences all the time.  Why not make up a story that supports you?

Application 1: If I approach a potential contact being paranoid about the response, I am likely to minimize myself and expect a no when I make my request.  If I am being an inverse paranoid, I will go into the conversation assuming it will be a win-win.  When in this state of mind, I am much more likely to have solutions for any possible issues, knowing that this person wants me to succeed.
Application 2:  When I don’t get what I want in the moment, I can open to the possibility that something even better is waiting in the wings. Read More

Believe In Yourself - #5

By  - Friday, September 16, 2011

Success Principle #5: Believe In Yourself

The Principle in a Nutshell: You must believe in your own ability to be successful and effect change.  

Discussion: Very closely related to principle #4 (you must believe it’s possible); the self-doubt will sabotage steps towards success.  As simple as this principle sounds, it is one of the most difficult to put into practice.  Negative self beliefs are wound pretty tight for most of us and can be challenging to let go of.    

Example: When we believe success is possible, but not for us, we start to feel like victims.  The world only works for everybody else.  This results in thoughts such as ‘why bother?’ ‘it is never going to happen’ and ‘I’m just wasting my time’.  Resulting or related behavior includes being easily distracted, addiction, procrastination, blaming and more.   Read More

Believe It's Possible - #4

By  - Friday, August 19, 2011

Success Principle #4: Believe It’s Possible

The Principle in a Nutshell: You must believe something is possible in order for it to happen.

Discussion: If you don’t believe it’s possible, you are not going to take action steps towards allowing it to happen.  Whether it’s important to believe it’s going to happen is an area I think our two experts (Canfield and Dwoskin) might disagree.  I like getting to the place where it’s not important what I believe, and still do whatever it takes to let the universe know that I’m in.

Case Study: I have way too many clients that believe success is impossible and therefore sabotage themselves and don’t take action.  The belief that something is impossible becomes an easy excuse to not pick up the phone, not write the book and so much more.  

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What Do You Really Want - SP #3

By  - Friday, August 05, 2011

Canfield Principle #3: Decide What You Want

The Principle in a Nutshell: What do you most want for you?  What do you want your life to look like?

Discussion: If you don’t know what you want, the course of your life is without direction.  Others (people and universal forces) will not know how to support you if you are unclear.
Getting clear can be challenging.  Our parents, caretakers and society all have ideas about what our lives should look like.  We often grow up thinking we want what they want for us, and don’t realize we are trying to live someone else’s dream.

Case Study: I’m a great case study for this one.  My dad was an accountant and I idolized him and became an accountant as well.  Though I knew as a child that my passion was movement and performing, I suppressed that because of many messages about succeeding in the arts.  Eventually, I was able to define what I wanted and redesign my life.    Read More

About Purpose - #2

By  - Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Canfield Principle #2: Be Clear Why You’re Here

The Principle in a Nutshell: Know what you have been put on Earth to do.    

Discussion: Your purpose is always tied to your passions.  Exploring what you love to do and doing more of it is good for you, good for others and good for the planet.  
I have seen way too many clients in angst over not knowing their life purpose and feeling paralyzed trying to figure it out.  Taking a step, any step, will start the process.  Don’t wait until you think you have it figured out.

Case Study: Lydia was in a field she hated for many years.  She was afraid to leave because she didn’t know what she would do for income.  As she learned to allow herself to have fun with the exploration, she started a blog on one passion and shortly thereafter, another opportunity presented itself in another area she was also passionate about.  Within just a few months, she was able to quit her job. Read More

Responsibility - #1

By  - Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Canfield Principle #1: Take 100% Responsibility For Your Life

The Principle in a Nutshell: Give up blaming and complaining.  Recognize that you have the power to change the circumstances in your life through your actions and responses.  

Discussion:  Recognizing that you are not at the mercy of others can be very empowering.  Knowing that you can take charge of your life, make changes and be master of your responses provides strength to move forward and take action.
Using this principle to blame yourself and take responsibility for everything that happens in life can become destructive and crazy-making.  Too often people will exhaust themselves wondering why something happened to them instead of accepting it, learning from it and moving on.  Remember, when you give up blaming, that includes blaming yourself. Read More


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