Joy Ignites Success

Defending, Justifying and Explaining

By  - Friday, June 22, 2012

Defending, Justifying and Explaining

Do you have a habit of wanting to explain yourself or your actions?  Do you defend and justify everything you do to others or even to yourself?  If you do, you are definitely not alone.  The tendency to want to defend our behaviors, thoughts and feelings is rampant in our society and often comes from wanting approval or security.  We think if someone understands why we did what we did, they won’t be mad at us, or they will ‘get us’.  The justifying and explaining could also be coming from wanting to control their reactions or opinions, or from wanting to be the same as them (oneness) or wanting to be different from them (separation).  The problem with all the explaining and defending, is that it creates a feeling that we did something wrong, even if we didn’t originally feel that way. Read More

Experience Your Fear and Take Action Anyway - SP #15

By  - Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Success Principle #15:  Experience Your Fear and Take Action Anyway

The Principle in a Nutshell: Don’t let fear stop you.  

Discussion: Underlying almost every reason, excuse or explanation for not doing what you need to do to get to where you want to go is fear.  Fear of looking foolish, fear of failing, fear of succeeding (yup, we have that fear too) and so much more.  When we feel our feelings (not conquer them), they move through awareness without a lot of effort.  When we resist the feelings, they hang around and create havoc.  I have seen many, many clients over the years resist feeling sadness, fear, anger, grief and more because they are afraid they will get stuck in the feeling and be overwhelmed or immobilized by it.  Nothing is further from the truth.  When we don’t allow ourselves to feel or experience our emotions, they simply hang around lurking under the surface.  
As an acronym, FEAR has been defined as false evidence appearing real.  Many of the things we fear are not based in reality.   Read More

Just Lean Into It - SP #14

By  - Friday, March 02, 2012

Success Principle #14:  Just Lean Into It

The Principle in a Nutshell: Start moving in the direction you want to be heading.

Discussion: I really like this principle.  Perhaps because it’s so body-oriented.  When we lean with the body, we get pulled in that direction (unless of course, something or someone pushes us back).  I believe the same principles apply across the board, that leaning into something we want gives us momentum towards exploring and having that.  I am personally living this principle right now.  I am venturing more into the world of coaching small business owners and offering teleconferences.  And, even though I don’t know what I’m doing (not the content part, the marketing and technical parts); I am taking steps in that direction.  I have scheduled a couple of free conferences and am starting to see myself doing coaching for executives and business owners.  It’s important to know that you don’t have to have the big picture and all the answers to lean into something you are passionate about. Read More


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