Joy Ignites Success

Responsibility - #1

By - Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Canfield Principle #1: Take 100% Responsibility For Your Life

The Principle in a Nutshell: Give up blaming and complaining.  Recognize that you have the power to change the circumstances in your life through your actions and responses.  

Discussion:  Recognizing that you are not at the mercy of others can be very empowering.  Knowing that you can take charge of your life, make changes and be master of your responses provides strength to move forward and take action.
Using this principle to blame yourself and take responsibility for everything that happens in life can become destructive and crazy-making.  Too often people will exhaust themselves wondering why something happened to them instead of accepting it, learning from it and moving on.  Remember, when you give up blaming, that includes blaming yourself.

Case Study:  Suzanna had been sexually abused as a child and as many do, blamed herself.  She carried the blame into adulthood and came to believe that she didn’t deserve to be happy.  This led to many instances of self-sabotage and expecting the worst to happen.  As she learned to give up blaming, she started to see more possibilities and new opportunities became available.  

Sedona Method Releases:
1. Allow yourself to think about any area of your life where you feel like a victim or un-empowered.  Could you welcome the pictures, sounds and sensations that go along with that memory?  Is that feeling coming from wanting approval, control, security, separation or oneness?  Whichever you are most aware of, could you let it go?  And could you let go of that feeling? Could you let go of wanting to keep the memory alive?
(Repeat 3 or 4 times or until dissolved)
2. Think about someone or something you have been blaming or complaining about for circumstances in your life.  Allow yourself to feel any frustration or anger associated with the situation.  Could you allow yourself to be as upset as you are and open inside to the sensations that accompany the upset?  (You may find that as you get present to the sensations, they will start to loosen their grip and will naturally dissolve.)  Could you let go of wanting to blame?

1. Allow yourself to find the posture that goes with feeling like a victim or un-empowered, notice what it feels like and let it go.
2. Allow yourself to find the posture that goes with taking too much responsibility (perhaps like the weight of the world is on your shoulders).  Notice this posture and let it go.
3. See if you can find a position that supports and empowers being in this moment and appropriate response.  How are you sitting or standing?  Are you aware of your breath?  Is your head up?  What position is your spine, your arms, your mouth?  
4. Take a couple of minutes to play with the different postures and see what you notice.  A simple shift in posture may create a new perspective.

What do you think?  
Please share an experience you had with this principle.  It can be about a time you felt like a victim, or when you gave up blaming, or how the above exercises felt to you.  Thanks!

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